While pulling on a particular mental ‘thread’ this morning, I stumbled across an obscure article – written in Korean no less – that was both obvious and disturbing.
Simply put, it showed that use of ‘smart’ devices such as phones, tablets, etc. inhibited the development of emotional intelligence in children. Conversely, participation in youth sports activities helped kids develop emotional intelligence. Reading books showed a similar effect.
Not that this will shock anyone, but it highlights the importance of actively engaging our bodies and minds from an early age. With the rapid increase in the use of technology, it’s more important now than ever before.
Now if you’ll excuse me, I’m going to put down my iPhone and go shoot some hoops with my kids…
Plenty of people are afraid of flying, but how many are worried that the plane will get lost and not reach the right destination? It’s highly unlikely these days, given all the technology on board the plane and in the control towers. Would you change your mind if you knew that a plane is off course 99% of the time it’s in the air?
It’s true. Having to adjust for storms, wind, other airplanes, and a variety of other factors at work, your flight is constantly off course! So how does it reach it’s destination safely and consistently? By constantly making course corrections. The instrumentation in the plane is continually sending and receiving information to the control towers, as well as taking in information from the various sensors on the plane. Through all this feedback, the pilots are able to make the minor adjustments to keep heading in the right direction.
These course corrections are involved in a variety of ways in all kinds of travel. Spacecraft are always making adjustments because of the ever-changing forces involved in space travel. Gravitational forces, solar winds, etc. drive the spacecraft off course. Given the extensive distances involved in space exploration, even the very slightest error in direction or speed can result in a misguided or lost craft and billions of dollars invested.
Before GPS and other sophisticated technology gave us the capability to receive highly accurate and near-instantaneous positioning information, travelers would have to rely on geographical or celestial landmarks. Ships traveling out of the sight of the shore line were essentially ‘flying blindly’ during the day except for the position of the sun. This would provide very vague information as to their current course. When the sun went down, the ship’s captain or navigator would chart their position relative to the stars. This would go on until dawn’s light began to obscure the stars, and then the ship was once again without this feedback.
Regardless of the technology available, these voyagers all had three things in common: They all plotted a course based on the most accurate information available, they received as much feedback as possible from whatever sources they had, and they continually adjusted their course based the information they received.
Ironically though, most of us fail to take these same measures when it comes to the most important journey of all – life. Unless things are going wrong, we rarely take the time to determine a chosen course, nor do we take in and evaluate the information coming in from all around to determine if we’re on the ‘right’ path.
Success is the harmonious interaction of effort, desire, knowledge, opportunity, connection, and luck. Focus on the factors you can control so you are able to take advantage of the ones you can’t when they appear.
No one wants to be dependent on someone else, but it is virtually impossible to be independent of anyone else. Being co-dependent simply means that you feed the demons of others while others feed your demons.
Better still is to realize that we are all interdependent … no one can or should exist entirely on their own. We rely on others, directly or indirectly, to play a role in our lives. So it is that we play a role in theirs. It is through this interaction that we are able to access our true path and potential. When we accept this notion, we as a society can begin to realize the limitlessness of our combined potential.
1. If you could do something that you knew could change the world for the better, would you do it?
2. And if this idea could indeed change the world, but wouldn’t make you a dime… would you still do it?
That’s how you know you’ve found your calling. Not that making a living or even a very good living is a bad thing – but if the point of what you’re doing is to make money, then you’re missing the point.
Interactions with, and emotions surrounding others – both the familiar and the strange – are rooted in our expectations.
The failure in most people’s application of the Golden Rule lies in the belief that if we treat others with kindness, respect, and gentility, that they will reciprocate in kind. This is not always the case.
The rule should read, “Treat others as you would have them treat you, but remove any expectation that they will do so. In turn, do not adjust your thinking or your approach if they respond with venom or disdain. You cannot lose what you do not possess, but you can retain your good heart and joyful spirit so long as you choose to do so.”
What we believe about ourselves, and what we say to ourselves, is the product of HOW we evaluate our experiences and the feedback we receive from others. Any limits we impose upon ourselves are not based on a factual assessment of our gifts and potential, but a false imprisonment based on warped thinking, doubt, guilt, jealousy, and regret. Success comes through constantly challenging both internal and external notions of what we believe is possible and daring to endure until a new reality is discovered.
“The success of the day is in the number of seeds I sow, not in the harvest I reap.”
– Robert Lewis Stevenson
“After sowing, there is a period of time where it looks like nothing is happening. All the growth is below the surface.” – Nabi Saleh
We must focus on sowing, knowing in our hearts that a great harvest is coming… even though it may be someone else who reaps it.